I was just looking back through drafts of things I have written over the years that never quite made it onto the blog. I’m not sure why I didn’t push the button on this one, because it is pretty funny. 🙂 I wrote it about a year and a half ago.
The Stages of Adulting
Before we had children, and even when the kids were babies, Jason and I had friends to our house quite often. We loved inviting our friends over and grilling out. It was something we really enjoyed, but stopped doing as time passed. You know, everyone was busy with their kids and jobs and just doing adult-stuff.
Plus, we start yawning around 8:00 now.
A few weeks ago we celebrated Jason’s 40th birthday. We had lots of people over, and we had a great time celebrating him.
After most people had left, two of my friends and I were sitting in the kitchen. These girls and I have spent many, many hours sitting in that same spot talking about who-knows-what (Because what did we talk about before we had kids, anyway?) while our husbands (or boyfriends at the time) did whatever men do in the garage. I mentioned how much our lives have changed since those days and how much we used to get together before we all had kids. Of course we all agreed that we should do this more often, because we really should do this more often.
This made me think that maybe we would start seeing each other more, because we’re now in the third stage of grown-up get-togethers: 40th birthday parties!
You are probably familiar with the other stages:
1-Weddings- Jason and I were pretty young when we got married so we were the first of our group of friends to host this get-together, and I will humbly admit that we (well, mostly my mom) set the bar pretty high. 🙂 We aren’t ones to turn down a wedding invite, so for awhile we went to a lot of weddings and those were great opportunities to see everyone. We even got to travel for a few weddings, which was great!
2-Baby showers & kids bday parties- We’re still in this stage, and will probably be here for awhile! It’s a lot different from the wedding stage, but there is still cake involved, so it gets a thumbs-up from me.
3-40th birthday parties- This is the third circle of celebrations in adulthood, and it’s fairly new to us. We’ve been invited to a couple, and, as I mentioned before, hosted Jason’s recently. There’s an eclectic mix of darkness (you know, the teasing that death is looming) and celebration of life. I’m looking forward to going to more of these, but not looking so forward to my own…..
4. You know the last round of get-togethers. I must have heard my grandma say it a million times: “The only time I ever get to see my friends anymore is at funerals.” Unfortunately, I can totally understand how this could happen! We get so tied up with life and kids and eventually grandkids, and just taking care of so much, that the only time we will see our friends anymore is when we are forced to see them at funerals.
So, I stopped writing there. I made it a goal of mine over the summer to try to do more with my friends, but I was pretty much a failure at that. I’m going to need some people to turn 40 this year so I can see you guys (but let’s avoid the 4th option if we can…).