After a year of sickness and the past 2 months spent in the hospital, my grandma went to be with the Lord this morning. She waited until 1:00 am the day after Christmas to go to Heaven, her last selfless act. I am sure she waited so she would not disturb anyone’s Christmas plans.
The past couple of months while Grandma has been in the hospital and I have been anticipating this moment, I have been reflecting on her life and the lives that have been impacted by her. In her 88 years on earth, Grandma was a shining example of what I consider to be a Christian woman. She loved Jesus and that was evident in her everyday actions and words.
I love reading about the Proverbs 31 woman in the Bible. I study that chapter in the Bible and try to live my life like her, and I have to keep in mind that the woman described in Proverbs 31 spent her entire life doing everything that is told in that chapter. She couldn’t have been all of those things at once, and neither can I or any other woman, but I hope that by the end of my life I will have at least gotten close!
Reading through Proverbs 31 this afternoon, I realized that Grandma has done it! She has been the Proverbs 31 woman.
Proverbs 31 (NLT)
10 Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
11 Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
Anyone who thinks of my grandma thinks of my papa. She loved him with all of her heart, showing him graciousness, forgiveness, love, kindness, understanding and support for their entire life together. Her love for Papa exemplified what a true servant’s heart should be. They are in Heaven together right this minute, and I know she isn’t looking back.
13 She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14 She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
16 She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.
19 Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.
20 She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy.
21 She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm clothes.
22 She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
Grandma was a hard-working woman. She worked her entire life doing different things for her family, and she didn’t whine or complain about it. In fact, her only complaint was when she could no longer work!
Grandma loved cooking for the family, and a lot of my childhood and adulthood memories center around eating at Grandma’s. She always had something to eat, even if it was peanut butter crackers! She made the best sweet tea in the world, and it will never be replicated.
Grandma loved canning beets, pickles, green beans, vegetable and tomato soup, tomatoes, and tons of other things. Her basement is full of canned goods as we speak, and she always made sure to send me home with some canned foods (But watch out if you didn’t return her cans!).
Grandma always had a clean house. That was important to her, and she worked hard at it.
Grandma worked hard for her family and for other people, never thinking of herself or her comfort.
23 Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders.
24 She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.
Grandma and Papa were certainly both well-known for their many precious qualities. They were leaders in their family, which is most important in this life.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
Strong and dignified are the perfect words to describe my grandma. She possessed those 2 qualities that a lot of women today lack, and she instilled them in her children and grandchildren.
Grandma laughed without fear of the future until the very end, because she knew that her future would be in Heaven. I know that is what she wants for every one of us here mourning her now.
26 When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
Grandma was so wise. She knew so much, but most importantly she knew about a woman’s instinct and its importance. She was always willing to share her knowledge and advice, but not unless it was asked for, and always with love and kindness. I could call her up to find out about a recipe or for advice about the kids, and she would always stop whatever she was doing to talk to me.
27 She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.
28 Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
31 Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
There are so many wonderful things I could say about Grandma, but what stands out the most as I look back on my time with her on this earth is that she showed us a glimpse of God’s love for us. God worked through Grandma for her entire life, and that is all any of us can endeavor for.
Well done, my good and faithful servant…